Christmas Gifts for Birth Parents

I knew I was going to make photo albums for both of Rocky’s birth parents for Christmas.  I get to see those little moments every day that make him who he is, but their time with him is more fleeting than mine.  We have an open relationship with both of them.  We see Maya pretty often.  She is part of our family.  She asks me about my experiences in college and how I became a teacher.  She sings in her school chorus and I was in the audience clapping for her during her holiday concert.  I love that we can see her blossom.

We see Marco, too, just not as often.  It must be hard to be a teenage birth father.  I would image that things feel awkward to him at times.  He must struggle with where he fits into the equation.  He is a good guy and I am sure he wants to do right by all of us.  I try to make things as easy as possible for him.  He texted me earlier in the week asking for Rocky’s sizes and wanting to know if there is anything in particular that he needs.  It made me smile to picture him and his mom picking things out for Baby Boy.  So sweet.

I made Marco a simple photo album for Christmas.  I send his mom and him links to my online albums pretty regularly.  They’ve also gotten prints and cards from us as well.  But, I thought that an album containing favorite pictures of the last year would be a nice gift for him.  I did the same for Maya and I put it all together scrapbook style with lots of captions.  For Marco, I wanted it to be something more fitting for a teenage boy.  I chose a small album and searched for the perfect quote to put on the inside cover.  I wanted a quote that said something about sacrifice and love.  I wanted the quote to be from an athlete because Marco is a sports nut.  I settled on one from Michael Jordan.

“There are plenty of teams in every sport that have great players and
never win titles. Most of the time, those players aren’t willing to
sacrifice for the greater good of the team. The funny thing is, in
the end, their unwillingness to sacrifice only makes individual
goals more difficult to achieve. One thing I believe to the fullest
is that if you think and achieve as a team, the individual accolades
will take care of themselves. Talent wins games, but teamwork and
intelligence win championships.”
- Michael Jordan

 There are so many ways I feel that this quote can relate to not only the role he plays in our adoption but the role that we play as adoptive parents as well.  ”If you think and achieve as a team, the individual accolades will take care of themselves.”  

Perfectly said, Mr. Jordan.

If you’d like to read more about the amazing role that birth parents play, you should check out this post on Maggie’s blog, A Pair of Pink Shoes.  Her entire blog is an incredible resource for adoptive parents, birth families and prospective adoptive parents.  It’s a true testament to what open adoption can be.  She is an amazing ambassador for open adoption and her daughter, Georgia has the best hair, ever.  Seriously.  Check her out; she’s been such an inspiration to me.

More to come later on why I can’t stop crying today.

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4 Responses to Christmas Gifts for Birth Parents

  1. Laura Best says:

    Ok, why can’t you stop crying….. the suspense is killing me:) Such a well written post -Merry Christmas to your family!! I hope you enjoyed every minute!!

  2. Maggie says:

    Thanks for the shout-out! Happy New Year!

  3. M. Kaye says:

    What a beautiful gift for the birth parents! As foster parents we have taken several classes about the relationship, or lack of, with the birth parents. I hope that when we adopt, whether through the foster system or private adoption, that we are able to have a good experience with them as well. The child will only thrive with so many people around who love him!

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